mindset

Comfort through masturbation became an escape from a frustrating life, linked to undiagnosed ADHD. It offered temporary relief from stress and feeling lost but didn't address root issues like lack of purpose or financial worries. Choosing to face discomfort and redirecting that energy can lead to real growth and a more fulfilling life.

Money stress makes all time feel wasted, causing pressure and futility, leading to time anxiety and numbness that worsens with age. I feel guilty for relaxing, demotivated by hopelessness, and anxious about limited time, creating frustration. I'm trying low-pressure experiments, device-free outings, meditation, deep breathing, and garden tea breaks to cope.

I find my purpose by linking my interests to solving real problems for others. This purpose guides me, uniting my skills and giving me the grit to push through challenges.

Motivation's unreliable; waiting means less doing. The secret is *action* first. Doing, even a little, creates the feeling of wanting to do more. Action builds momentum, unlike waiting for motivation to magically appear. If your mind wanders like mine, waiting for perfect motivation is frustrating. We need to engage, experiment, and move, not just wish.

I believe our unrecognized self-beliefs restrict us, despite our potential for personal change. Although my methods aren't academic, I'm keen to understand. Here are perspectives from the relevant fields.

I believe chasing external success often feels empty and traps us in a success-versus-failure cycle. Instead, I propose focusing on thriving through internal fulfillment by aligning our actions with our values, making the journey itself meaningful. This approach, supported by psychological principles of well-being, offers a more sustainable path to genuine satisfaction than the endless pursuit of external validation.

I define "the spark" as that unique inner drive that fuels passion and purpose. It's the intrinsic motivation that pushes me beyond mere obligation and towards activities that truly resonate with me. This spark isn't something to be found externally, but rather an inherent part of my being that needs to be recognized and nurtured. When I connect with this inner spark, I experience a profound sense of aliveness and direction.

the actions I consistently take shape who I become. My habits and choices are not just reflections of my current self but are active forces in molding my future character. By consciously choosing my actions, I am essentially choosing the kind of person I will be.