What if You Never Get What You Want?

Posted on February 28, 2012
Updated June 28, 2018

Your dreams may never come true. Sad?

That amazonian who wears g-strings around the house… the latest iMac pumped with the fastest gear… that treehouse over a lake just the right distance from a major city. That lifestyle where you are truly free, globehopping on the back of passive income.

The trouble with desire is we’re not very able to sort out which are useful and which are detrimental. Which are needs that will further empower us to make a better life and world, and which are desires that will corrode our reality? If they were really that black and white it would be even easier.

The key to cutting through the confusion is gratitude. Appreciation for what we’ve got, most of which is actually simply us. Gratitude for what youth and health you’ve got (everyone who’s not dead has some), the blessings of nature and what friendship and love reality has afforded you.

That, and the willingness to work with what you’ve got to build something worthwhile – to take what we’ve been ‘given’ (if that’s your preclusion) and turn use it fully.

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.(Socrates)

Likewise, the secret of contentedness is to focus not on unfulfilled desires but on fulfilled needs.

This is my little truth for today, you’re welcome to it.